The most dangerous phrase in the language is, “We’ve always done it that way.”
Marriage, in its current state, is not working.
Don’t believe me? Look at the stats.
With anywhere from a 40% – 50% divorce rate (depending on who you talk to) and a 23% decrease in numbers of those marrying from 1960 to today, it’s obvious that lifestyle trends are shifting away from “forever after” unions.
Should we sit back and do nothing more than watch the institution die a slow death? Or should we mobilize to take action?
If marriage had nothing to offer, it would be fine to let it go by the wayside. But an updated version of marriage could offer couples and families quite a lot in the way of social and emotional stability, financial well-being and more.
Some of you may be thinking, “Change marriage? We can’t change marriage! There are religious edicts and legal statutes that have been in place for years—centuries even!” Therein lies the problem. We continue to think we’re all supposed to fit into a size “Small,” yet we live “Medium,” “Large” and “Extra Large” lifestyles. Not to mention that we also live longer these days than we did in 1215, when “until death do us part,” got added to the vows.
On September 18, The Census Bureau released new data showing that, despite including same-sex couple stats with married couples (in its largest household survey to date), there was no reversal in the long-term national decline in marriage.