How do you define commitment?

It seems whenever anyone talks about divorce or troubled marriages, the C word comes up — commitment.How do you define commitment?

The problem with couples today, the typical comment goes, is that they just don’t know what commitment means.

OK, so what does commitment in a marriage mean?

That’s something we have been exploring in our work with soon-to-be-married couples for our book, The New I Do. Each and every bride- and groom-to-be that we’ve interviewed has emphatically emphasized how important commitment is and how important it will be in his or her marriage.

Great – who’s going to argue with commitment, especially when it’s stated so passionately? But then we ask them what they won’t tolerate in their marriage. And, guess what each one names first? Right — infidelity. There’s commitment and then there’s this: “Well, I’m absolutely not going to deal with my spouse cheating on me!”

Makes sense. But, apparently there’s some wiggle room, even when it comes to cheating. Read more here, and then come back and tell us — how do you define commitment?


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